top of page
Between The Beats
Reflections on healing, connection, and coming home to yourself.


Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Why Rejection Hits So Hard When You Have ADHD or AuDHD
If you have ADHD, autism, or AuDHD, that isn't you being "too sensitive." It's rejection sensitive dysphoria, and it's one of the most painful — and least talked-about — parts of being neurodivergent.A partner sighs at the wrong moment and the flood hits instantly — shame, panic, an overwhelming urge to disappear.
erica smalla
Oct 37 min read


Neurodivergent Couples Communication: Why You Keep Misunderstanding Each Other
You can care deeply about your partner and still feel as though you keep missing each other. In mixed-neurotype relationships, silence, directness, changing plans, emotional intensity, or needing space can carry very different meanings. This article explores neurodivergent couples communication through an IFS-informed lens—and offers a gentler way to understand the protective patterns beneath conflict, shutdowns, and disconnection.
erica smalla
Sep 309 min read


Why Do I Distract Myself? Listening to What You Need in the Moment Before
What if reaching for your phone, a snack, or one more episode isn’t a failure of self-control? The moment before the distraction may hold a clue about what you need. Here’s how to get curious without judging yourself.
erica smalla
Sep 273 min read


Why Do I Crave Routine but Struggle to Follow It? Understanding the AuDHD Push-Pull
If routines help you feel grounded but quickly become boring, restrictive, or impossible to follow, you may be experiencing a familiar AuDHD push-pull. Here is a more compassionate way to understand it.
erica smalla
Sep 257 min read
bottom of page
%20(1).png)